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You don't know till you ask : jumping to conclusions, speaking to children -- The weeping willow : children dealing with impending death -- Who will go to Torah with me? : security following parental death -- The black place : talking about fears -- The tree : it is normal to grow after trauma -- Give me permission to die : talking openly about death -- The silent stage : encouraging the bereaved to express themselves -- Where is safe? : repercussions of sibling death -- Deciding to live : important decisions need conscious thought -- Who's next? : taking children to funerals : when, what age, how -- The worst death : the difference between losing a parent and losing a child -- The last to know : the individual's right to know -- What is freedom? : the unique perspective of the individual -- The mailman : learn and pass the knowledge on -- I want attention : classroom intervention after suicide -- You cannot prepare : rehearsal for grief/romanticizing death -- I can't tell you : getting someone to tell you something -- Letting go : taking chances with communication -- What is the gain? : cost versus benefit -- Body language : the clarity of affective communication -- Harps in heaven, accordions in hell : changing perceptions -- Waiting to die : the timing of death -- Where did you get my number? : identifying the bereaved -- Better to remember him as he was : who should be part of the mourning rituals? -- Waiting for Elijah : normal grief responses -- What not to say : how to act around grievers -- What is yours, what is not : empathy, boundaries, identification -- Laugh and the world laughs... : when you are dying, you are still alive -- The minefield : normal grief -- I want to finish his life for him : identification of bereaved siblings with the deceased.